What are the reasons for choosing Home Schooling?

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I am posting this thread on behalf of a reader who is having (hopefully temporary) problems with his computer and posting to the forums directly. He would, however, welcome discussion of this issue.

What are the reasons for choosing Home Schooling?

Perhaps the best reason of all is to spend as much time as possible with one’s child. Next comes dissatisfaction with the performance of a particular teacher or school. This might be followed by disillusion as to the merits of the education system as a viable medium for education in its true sense. Last, but certainly not least, comes dissatisfaction with the entire social system within which one’s child has to learn.

Whilst I regard this final dissatisfaction as the only meaningful reason for withdrawing or withholding one’s child from participating in schooling, I suspect that it is the one which is least adhered-to. The reason for this is that it calls for a much wider action than the mere home-schooling of an individual or even widespread de-schooling of society itself.

De-schooling is a remedial action not a preventive one. It is of course a valid action as long as formal education in its current form continues to have its historic control function within the social structure. It is however, another example of the all too prevalent practice of expending energy in the treatment of symptoms at the expense of treating the disease.

That disease is the universal commitment to the preservation of a social system which is deeply flawed. Formal education as it exists, is more or less dedicated to the preservation and ratification of that commitment. Whilst purporting to broaden the student’s mind, it actually sets it on a very narrow track-to-acceptance of the status quo.

I suspect that whilst many parents are participating in the home-schooling movement their long-term plan is to plug-in again to the establishment when they recognise a more propitious time for doing so. Thus they can ensure that the student will be better able to exploit the perceived advantages open to them.

This, of course, is a sell-out, merely postponing the point at which their offspring will be better fitted for the ‘great-game’ of self-destruction to which man is seemingly committed. The true tragedy lies not so much in mankind’s drive to self-destruction as in his determination to take all other forms of life with him.
 

Diane

HEdups
I've been wondering why you want to know the reasons for home educating. These are many, varied and often individual to the children and the families.

Home education often proves to be a pleasant surprise to most new home educators, and confers many benefits both on the families and the children, and, I would also say, society because both home educators and home educated learn to think.

We need more people who aren't taken in by the surface, spin and shine in our society, but who question and cogitate and, ultimately, rebel against tyranny. This is a hugely important role that home education can fulfill.

Diane
http://www.threedegreesoffreedom.blogspot.com
 
Following a recent discussion with my son and daughter, I have decided to homeschool them both.

There are a number of reasons for this and I will list those I can think of...

I welcome the chance to spend more time with them. I remember how much of a wrench it was when they first started school. I cried and cried because I had nurtured them since before they were born and was always there for them but when they started school, they were going to be under someone else's care - someone who didn't and couldn't love them like I did.

We had all enjoyed me teaching them how to read, to learn colours, numbers, shapes, opposites etc and to write their names. I felt they were too young to be going to school. It didn't feel right.

I wasn't aware that we are legally allowed to educate our children at home.

My daughter is due to begin Year 10 in September but the school have not allowed her to take the options she wanted for GCSEs (which I think are thrust upon our offspring before they are really ready to know what they want to do for a career). She has since changed her mind about what career she wishes to pursue. The whole options issue has been very stressful for her.

We are tired of the way things are taught in schools and feel we can learn more at home in a safer and friendlier environment.

These are some of the things that get us all down by them being in school...

Wearing of uniforms
Not being allowed to wear trainers which are far more comfortable
Bright coloured hairbands not being allowed
No necklaces
No individuality
No allowances for our vegan diet
No freedom to be themselves
Peer pressure
Set lunch times (1.15 is rather late - even I couldn't last that long)


So, now we have decided to home educate, our next hurdle is breaking the news to my husband who (don't laugh) is a mature student taking a degree in teaching! I need to do this soon because school breaks up for the summer in 4 weeks and I want them off the system before then.
 

Joxy

HEdups
I've chosen to continue Rye's education rather than send him to school at the appointed time because simply it fits in with our lifestyle. I consider myself to be an Attachment Parent and HEing is, for me, a natural progression of the style of parenting and family life that has developed over the course of the 2 half years since my son was born and one I hope will continue; but it will be his choice, if he should wish to try school at a later date I will not stop him. We will talk about it, and privately I hope he would not want to, but to ignore an expressed choice would go against the autonmonous view I have of his learning and his rights as a person.

Nor do I believe I can do a better job than a school, simply different. I can offer different experiences and a different learning experience for him, one which is intrinisically a part of life, rather than seperate and segregated.

Regards
Joxy.
 
I think the decision to Home Educate is also very much down to the individual child's needs as well as the beliefs or preferences of the parent(s).

My daughter is educated at home- but my younger son is in school.
Both thrive in their different environments. My son would not suit being HomeEducated any more than a school environment suits my daughter.

I don't agree that
'whilst many parents are participating in the home-schooling movement their long-term plan is to plug-in again to the establishment when they recognise a more propitious time for doing so. Thus they can ensure that the student will be better able to exploit the perceived advantages open to them.'

It's rather a blanket statement. Some parents deliberately choose not to go down the mainstream school route -for many reasons- and these reasons are born of deeply held convictions. I don't think anyone can say that they expect such parents to 'sell out' these convictions. To them, they are already exploiting the advantages to the child by home educating!

If my son had been given a place in our nearest Secondary, and we failed any appeal- then, yes, I would have removed him from school because it would have been disastrous for him to have attended there. If he had then passed the grammar school entry criteria at 13 rather than 11, or a place had become available in a secondary of our choice (I include my son in that 'our')- then we would have let him return to school. NOT because of any cop-out - or to grab some sort of 'advantage' but because, for him, a formal school environment is where he is happiest and where he will thrive the most.

I would no more send my daughter back into a formal school, however, than I would eat my own eyeballs!!!
So, for us, it was very much about what suited our individual children the best.
 

COCOPLUM

New member
Hi,

The reason I wish to home school my child is that most people expect Britain is neutral regarding human rights, but it's not. I for one use to assume Britain strived to treat everyone in a way that is not detrimental to them & respects their needs. That one is not favored over another for such petty reasons as for example one has more supporters, the outcome to favor one is better for the economy, it's thought the community may in future suffer pyhsically or mentally if one isn't favored over another, one has the ability to directly contribute to taxes or sue etc & the other doesn't etc etc.

My main reason for home schooling is concern over how abortion is touted, it's touted as a choice, but all the facts aren't presented neutrally particularly negative consequences of abortion are often omitted & the main point foetus are existing human beings too is seemingly just left up to people to decide. It's not taught in a neutral way, that a human being is no less human just because they may look more cell or animal & not like a born one. People are allowed to just see pictures & facts such as they have no sense of self, can't feel pain until a certain age etc all diferences are pointed out but the one main fact that they are unique existing human beings & just as alive & individual as them from the moment of fertilisation is mainly just taken for granted they know & understand, but pictures & physical ability facts can't ever do that justice. When the law lies & declares them not existing human beings, it's often hard to understand the truth if you don't understand it yourself as many don't. People often go on looks rather than knowledge, plus differences often make people feel that there is a certain amount of different that makes a subject totally different from another, but when it comes to an existing human being it's a catastrophic risk to allow people the choice to come to such a conclusion. Without presenting that abortion is killing an existing human being, that killing a child human is just as real & negative as if killing an adult one is preventing a person from forming their own opinion in a blanced way. That killing for compassion is still wrong even when they be an unborn child. That it's wrong to kill whether a person can feel pain or not, live unsupported or not, has loved ones or not, can form relationships or not etc. That referring to an existing child as products of conception, which often those in the medical profession do should never be tollerated.

Everywhere that is expected to be neutral is not, such as schools, youth clubs, even surgeries etc & for this reason I wish to provide my child with home schooling so that she spends the most of her time being raised in an evironment that is neutral & will respect her as a human being that needs to form her own opinions in a blanced way.

My main fear is of course social services, having been hassled by them before as apparently they are allowed to just asume a child having no father is a risk, that being unemployed is negative I was hassled by them for no other reason than this since my child was born. This eventually ending in them putting my child on child protection register just for me expressing my views regarding abortion. I was acused that I wouldn't provide a balanced upbringing for my child when in actual fact she was under 18 months old & I had stated my desire for her to have a balanced one, but that I couldn't see her having one in conventional schooling & exposure to media etc. I had made the mistake of revealing abuse I had suffered as a child & this had given them ammunition. They stated I was suffering mental illness despite the fact I wasn't or had ever been diagnosed so. I think it was also asumed by most at the conference that I was incapable of forming relationships or having empathy despite this being untrue & not being said or proof being obtained. She was taken off register 3 months later but I will forever be declared putting her at serious risk in their paperwork, despite the fact it's totally untrue, they will not reverse their slanderous decision. It being that people believe those put on child protection register did put their child at huge serious risk I am left completely set up by them & with my name totally tarnished forever, I've tried but they will not reverse their non factual statement. I now worry this may prevent me from being able to home school her or being seriously scrutinised much more than another. And possibly being set up again with false claims being made & accepted just like they were at the child protection conference. I was never told I had a right to home school my child or that it was a possibilty despite this being the obvious solution to my problem. It was only recently upon seeing such on news that I see this is possible. Unfortunately though it looks like the objective may never be obtained depending on how the dictatorship law makers rule.

Obviously also I want to spend as much time with my daughter as I can, you only live once & get the time once then it's gone forever.
 

interiordesignr

New member
I'm sure people hold their conviction high with regard to their child's well-being and welfare, especially having the child study at home. However, the question now comes in whether you are depriving your child the proper social interaction with other people outside your family, whether bad or good. It is important for them at their stage in life to develop their social skills, which will bear significance as they grow older. This is not to disparage your choice of taking your child into home schooling, but you have to face the consequences brought out by this decision.
 

Admin

Administrator
The final 'consequence' of my own decision to be a parent and, later, a home educator is now at university.

What makes you think that schooled children develop more appropriate social skills than home educated children? Whereas the former are compulsorily separated off from the rest of society in schools, which have little to do with education, home educated children grow up and learn in the real world.

Don't worry, we are used to being asked these questions and we are always happy to dispel the myth that we keep our children at home all day (home education is not the same as 'school at home' and is rooted in the community) so that we can (a) hothouse them into little geniuses (b) fail to 'teach' them the 'necessary' things so that they will be a future burden on the state (c) turn them into religious fanatics (d) abuse, neglect or force them into domestic servitude or (e) a combination of the above.

I blame the government! Despite the existence of robust evidence to the contrary, they continue to dupe the general population into believing there is no better model than school to educate children and young people.
 
Schooling is what happens in school. Hence the name. What we do is home education.

And to answer the question; Why would I interrupt my child's natural learning and curiosity to sent him to somewhere where he will have his "education" imposed on him by an authority figure who does not care about what he is actually interested in, or where his strengths are, but is merely doing the bidding of the Government?

My son is more than capable of learning, and socialising, and having a happy and fulfilling life, without the help of the national curriculum and a school system that is rotten at the core.

Maybe when schools have risen themselves to the standard of education and socialisation that is provided one to one in the real world by loving parents who home educate, we can have this conversation then?
 

Sam

HE
Hi,
My son went to school for a year and a half, he cried everyday. He didn't learn to read, he was scared to go to the toilet, he was frightened of the teachers shouting.
He did learn how to swear and who to avoid in the playground.
In his school report the teacher said he was 'developing a personality', funny that, we thought he'd always had one:crazy:
Regards,
Sam.
 
It was my wife Andrea’s idea to home educate for many of the reasons stated above. I had the stereotypical kneejerk negative reaction at first and consequently decided to construct a rational and logical case against home educating, only to find to my surprise that I couldn’t. Since I have a background in science I decided to look at the research and it turns out that all the studies over the last 35 years have consistently found that, statistically speaking, home education results in significantly higher levels of emotional and psychological well being (happiness), social skills and academic attainment than schooling. From a purely rational and logical point of view home education is the only choice if you value happiness, social skills and academic attainment. The difficult consequence of this stance is in explaining why 99% of the population are acting irrationally by sending their kids to school. Could it be a series of cultural memes as indicated on a blog highlighted in a recent post? I think it possibly could, indicating that there may be strong parallels between Richard Dawkins’ explanation of why so many people are religious and why so many people send their kids to school. I dare say you could call it ‘the schooling delusion.’ Food for thought!
Paul.
 
We were disappointed with the performance of the local school, and horrified at the dodginess of the green space we had to traverse to get there.
The final straw, for us was getting attacked by dogs...


The difficult consequence of this stance is in explaining why 99% of the population are acting irrationally by sending their kids to school. Could it be a series of cultural memes as indicated on a blog highlighted in a recent post?
Mr.Henderson

I've blogged about that.
http://a-blaise-school-parent.blogspot.com/2007/07/homeschooling.html
I think ppl are happy to send their kids to school, even if they know it is a totally crap experience for the kids because it's what they had themselves ... and thus helps them make their kids turn out more like themselves.

So it is a kind of herd behaviour, assuming, like everyone else does, that it is the right thing to do (sending em to school). I suppose it is good for society, to be able to mass shape all those young minds, but that is a far cry from individual child centred decisions about childrens lives.

I think that 'explaining why 99% of the population are acting irrationally' is thus kinda simple...they aren't acting rationally, they are acting in the interests of society/nation/group mind.
Letting said society make the important decisions for them, even regarding their children..
 
This, of course, is a sell-out, merely postponing the point at which their offspring will be better fitted for the ‘great-game’ of self-destruction to which man is seemingly committed.
Hi,
Huh? can you possibly explain that self destruction part in different words please? :)
I don't understand it very well.
:ear:

cheers,
Stuart
 
My main fear is of course social services, having been hassled by them before as apparently they are allowed to just asume a child having no father is a risk, that being unemployed is negative I was hassled by them for no other reason than this since my child was born. This eventually ending in them putting my child on child protection register just for me expressing my views regarding abortion.

That is awful, my heart goes out to you Cocoplum.

You've got to learn that lesson well though, that people, and groups of people will never be neutral, because they aren't, and if you don't be seen to conform to their expectat
ions (such as views on abortion) they will harrass you in some way.

The only Neutral Zone I know of , is in Star Trek.

Back in the nineties I used to get attacked in the street approximately once per year, nearly always because I had a pony tail...then famous footballers started wearing their hair long...and it seemed to become more acceptable.
 
Our reasons for home educating

My DD had an abysmal time in secondary school, being bullied and her educational needs being ignored. She is very bright but her 'attainments' are nowhere near where they should be - solely due to the poor educational opportunities she experienced and the refusal of every teacher who knew her to acknowledge her particular learning difficulty. She was eventually diagnosed, at 18, as a seriously bright dyslexic by her college, but too late as she had given up on formal education. The only saving thing for her was the music provision in our county, which was excellent and meant that she could excel at least in one area and had friends outside of school.

DS was sent to school (already reading BOOKS!) and found it so traumatic his teacher didn't hear his voice for three months. He endured the school system until the end of primary as we didn't know we could HE until the last two years and I wanted to be sure it was legal and do-able for us, I also wanted DS to be absolutely sure it was what he wanted. He has been HE for the last six weeks and is gradually coming back to us - his 'strops' are fewer and over more quickly and he is much less stressed.

What I have come to realise is that our children have always been Home Educated, we just didn't realise it. We simply couldn't help discussing, exploring ideas, listening to their ideas and providing them with information, materials and experiences which the schools deemed unnecessary.

DD (age 25) has worked since age 16 - even while at school and college, despite her poor academic record and is now considering her educational needs regarding a change of career. Whatever she does, it will be despite her education so far, not because of it.

DS is following his own learning plan, and astonishing us on a daily basis with his ability to 'get stuck in' to learning new things. I have no doubt (and plenty of evidence) that he will achieve more in this way than at school.
 

Diane

HEdups
Maybe you have to face the consequences of children having negative socialisation from school. What sort of behaviour are children often modelling when they come home from a day with their peers? Good behaviour? Respect for others?

Societies usually develop with all members being able to associate with all other members. Young and old and middle aged. We are dangerously skewing our society. We allow children to teach children how to behave, and some children are not fit to be other children's teachers.

Would you rather your children treat others with respect? Or that they bring the laws of jungle survival that they are forced to develop in schools into their adult lives?

Diane
http://www.threedegreesoffreedom.blogspot.com
 
Would you rather your children treat others with respect? Or that they bring the laws of jungle survival that they are forced to develop in schools into their adult lives?

One of the problems in schools is that most of the teachers have never really left school themselves, they spend years as a pupil, then go on to college/university, then go straight back to school, never having experienced life outside of an educational institution. Hardly surprising that they seem to think that the behaviour they see in schools is 'normal'. Personally, I believe every teacher should have to work in a non-educational setting for a few years before ever being allowed to teach, perhaps they would then have some idea how people interact in the wider population?
 
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