Successful HE adults


Hi, I hope this is posted in the right place.
My son is just coming up for 4 and I fully intend to continue on our HE path throughout his 'school years'. Our only 'challenge' is my DH. We have gone through all the pros/cons of school v HE back and forth for the past 18mnths, and just when I think we're getting somewhere we go back to, "no". TOday, the questions to put me by DH are:
1. what if he gets to 14 and decides he wants to be a doctor. you cant tell me that uni's will accept an he kid with no formal quals to be a dr (Edinburgh uni does!), plus we would have to integrate him into school and he will have to learn to conform in a school environment/study/make friend/deal with hormones etc all at the same time.
2. we don't know anyone who has been He'd and can tell us it works, what if we gets to 15 years and DS says, you've ruined my education by HE-ing.
3. You are taking full responsibility for his entire education - how do you know what your covering is enough?
4. we are denying him of so many opportunities he would get at school, difference experiences.
5. the age old socialising one....enough said!
I basically need to put a case together of evidence to support HE that it does work, DS can still have the career he chooses - what ever that may be.
After a long post, what I am asking here is - does anyone have any success stories about how/where your own HE's children have gone successfully, or was anyone here he'd theselves and can share a positive story?
Any thoughts or 'evidence' are very much appreciated.
Oh, I have read most by john holt, john taylor gatto and ross mountney, and been dripfeeding their findings, but DH very reluctant to actually sit down and read them for himself.
Hi BohoMama, :welcome:

I speak as a home educating parent who was home educated.

I'll have a go at some of your questions:

1. Home educated children may study for formal qualifications just like any other children. There are correspondence course available which will help you do that. Beyond GCSE / I-GCSE level your child would probably need to go to college. Personally, I would suggest that a home educated child, keen to learn, would most likely be a self reliant individual. As such, why should there be a problem with a formal academic environment for an older child who is motivated?

2. Your child won't ever say to you they have been 'ruined' by being home educated. Experience of home educating parents, who have often removed their children from failing schools, is that once the child is free of that environment, they become very keen to learn in whatever way suits them. You try and stop them ! You will instinctively know, as a parent, what works best after a while.

3. The law in Britain says that you, the parent, are responsible for your child's education. It's the role of the state to provide the schools for those that choose the option. If you send your child to school and it doesn't work out then you are still responsible. If you want your child to have a formal, academic, home education then it doesn't take much to work out what's required. But the difference is that you have the flexibility as to how to achieve that. For example, many home educators choose Open University courses which can be started in the teens and come with credits accepted by universities.

4. You are not denying your child opportunities by not being at school - you have the freedom to explore all the opportunities that are appropriate for your child.

5. Socialising . . . You have obviously picked up the rot spoken about this. Suffice to say that just one major advantage is absenting your child from the bullying that can blight education completely.

I think most of would want our other halves to be on board with home educating the children. My other half came round to the idea after reading 'Free Range Education', by Terri Dowty.

Two good role models for home educated children are astronomer Patrick Moore and naturalist Gerald Durrell. Neither went to school. (also the Queen, who is pretty well socialised !)

As for me, without formal education I served in HM Forces, has a career in industry and studied at Masters level. It helped that I never had anyone telling me I couldn't do things.


Thank you so much Mayfly :D
That's a fab help - exactly along the lines of what I hoped. I will be informing DH of your response forth with!
Thanks again
Glad to be of help.

I think it's worth adding that, entering the wider world as a young adult, I never experienced an adverse reaction to my being home educated. The military selection panel were simply not bothered as their selection process was designed to see what you were like when you walked in the door and what your potential was.

There's an important point here. We're living through an unpleasant era in which the state wants everyone to have a 'data history' by which you can be judged. But the real world of work isn't quite like that. The real world has to take someone on merit and potential.

As a home educated individual I have probably been judged as being quite independent, self reliant and not inclined to buckle to peer group pressure. In the context of your child's upbringing that's worth thinking about. Young people have to deal with the most awful peer group pressure these days. As home educating parents you have the possibility to absent your child from a lot of that.
RIP the last of a whole family of notable home educated children:

Dowager Duchess of Devonshire - obituary

The Dowager Duchess of Devonshire, who has died aged 94, was the youngest and last of the celebrated Mitford sisters,

. . . None of the girls was sent to school, as their father thought education for girls unnecessary; a succession of governesses was employed, one of whom, Miss Pratt, had her charges playing Racing Demon daily from 9am until lunchtime.
Imagine what her parents would have to put up with these days . . .